If you want to reduce stress, anxiety, and judgment in the world, here are some helpful things to remember:
1. Losing weight/"leaning up"/slimming down/getting "toned"/looking ONE SPECIFIC, SMALL, STANDARD WAY are not universal goals* (especially for women)!
2. Chocolate/fries/ice cream/other non-vegetables aren't everyone's "cheat meals." Some people (ME, for example) just eat whatever the fuck they want WHENEVER the fuck they want. Mmmmmm tastes like freedom...and lots of delicious calories.
3. Any genre of fueling that is followed by the word "diet" is a MARKETING GIMMICK designed to make you feel too big, bad about yourself and your choices, and make you waste a bunch of money on crap you don't need by corporations convincing you that you don't know what's best for you already.
4. Use what works, discard what doesn't.
5. Useful & compassionate mind-heart-bodies are the sexiest, most intriguing damn things on the planet.
6. Everyone wants to be heard, seen, loved, and appreciated, even if they hide behind their imaginary & real protective fortresses sometimes (or all the times).
7. Identify your needs and make requests (not demands) to get them met.
8. Take responsibility for your feelings.
9. You cannot control or predict someone's experience; you can only contribute to it.
10. To reach clarity: ask as many questions as necessary & listen to the answers.
11. You are always in choice (and therefore, in a position of power)!
12. Love! Generously, abundantly, exuberantly, and with as much enthusiasm as you want to, always!
*If you goal IS to be small(er), ask yourself why. Then answer. Then ask yourself why again. Then answer... And on and on and on until you've realized what's underneath that original idea of how you think your body needs to be.
1. Losing weight/"leaning up"/slimming down/getting "toned"/looking ONE SPECIFIC, SMALL, STANDARD WAY are not universal goals* (especially for women)!
2. Chocolate/fries/ice cream/other non-vegetables aren't everyone's "cheat meals." Some people (ME, for example) just eat whatever the fuck they want WHENEVER the fuck they want. Mmmmmm tastes like freedom...and lots of delicious calories.
3. Any genre of fueling that is followed by the word "diet" is a MARKETING GIMMICK designed to make you feel too big, bad about yourself and your choices, and make you waste a bunch of money on crap you don't need by corporations convincing you that you don't know what's best for you already.
4. Use what works, discard what doesn't.
5. Useful & compassionate mind-heart-bodies are the sexiest, most intriguing damn things on the planet.
6. Everyone wants to be heard, seen, loved, and appreciated, even if they hide behind their imaginary & real protective fortresses sometimes (or all the times).
7. Identify your needs and make requests (not demands) to get them met.
8. Take responsibility for your feelings.
9. You cannot control or predict someone's experience; you can only contribute to it.
10. To reach clarity: ask as many questions as necessary & listen to the answers.
11. You are always in choice (and therefore, in a position of power)!
12. Love! Generously, abundantly, exuberantly, and with as much enthusiasm as you want to, always!
*If you goal IS to be small(er), ask yourself why. Then answer. Then ask yourself why again. Then answer... And on and on and on until you've realized what's underneath that original idea of how you think your body needs to be.