Are you someone whose default compliment/comment for or about another person is related to how they look? It could be about anything: what they're wearing, hairstyle, make-up/lack thereof, body features, size, etc.
If that is you, what would happen if you tried shifting the focus, just for a day or an hour, onto something else? It could be anything, just something NOT related to their appearance.
I notice myself looking at the surface a lot, and feeling really curious about what else I can see on a deeper level, and also really wanting to BE SEEN for more than the outside layers. I also notice myself relaxing more and feeling safer around people who tend to NOT comment on how I look all the time.
This feels like a big topic, and the more I write and pay attention, the more that comes up for me.
What about you?
What is your experience with this stuff?
If that is you, what would happen if you tried shifting the focus, just for a day or an hour, onto something else? It could be anything, just something NOT related to their appearance.
I notice myself looking at the surface a lot, and feeling really curious about what else I can see on a deeper level, and also really wanting to BE SEEN for more than the outside layers. I also notice myself relaxing more and feeling safer around people who tend to NOT comment on how I look all the time.
This feels like a big topic, and the more I write and pay attention, the more that comes up for me.
What about you?
What is your experience with this stuff?